Shared Needs and Wants

What makes a health relationship between two, or more, persons who are committed to being with one another? From my way of thinking, all parties must be brutally honest about their individual needs and wants. Open communication is essential. Hidden agendas will kill meaningful conversation and destroy understanding.

HA means that you are either consciously or unconsciously lying to yourself about what you really need to be satisfied, or, in other words, to be content with the state and direction of your relationship. A person should figure out what's important and necessary and then communication in no uncertain terms this information to the significant other or others.

Also, given the fact that needs and wants can, and often do, change throughout the duration of committed relationships, altered thoughts and desires must be verbalized and and not be suppressed. In all likelihood, suppressed thoughts tend to fester and grow, and grow, in frustration until and unless brought to light.

i do believe that there is no right or wrong way for people to live and love, no magical condition necessary. Whatever works, some might say. However, it seems to me that a central prerequiste for a health relationship is a meeting of the minds. In short, are we on the same page?